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THE SEATTLE TIMES, NOVEMBER, 2002
Jobless need to rebuild confidence By PATRICIA KITCHEN The other day, I was speaking with a good friend who has been out of work more than 18 months about his dilemma over accepting a part- time teaching job at night, one he knows he wouruly enjoy. "What if I then got a job offer and couldn't fulfill the teaching obligation?" his reasoning went. "Or what if the new job is in another part of the state?" He said he felt the real benefits-bearing job had to come first. Aft that, he could take steps in his other interests -- teaching and developing a side business as a personal chef. But then he paused and the "a-ha" emerged. "I know I'm overanalyzing. I've lost my confidence." Indeed, this multitalented fr banker, who started his career exploration with verve and enthusiasm, now spends most of his time responding to online ads. No networking, no professional associations, no volunteer leadership positions. In short, not the best routes to finding work. What can be done to start rebuilding confidence? Here are a few ideas: Follow a regular schedule -- set the alarm for the same time you got up when you were working. It may be tempting to sleep the day away, but remember onent rule of physics, says Bill Heather, vice president in the Melville, N.Y., office of Right Management Consultants. "A body in motion tends to stay in motion, and a body at rest tends to stay at rest. That's true in job search, too." Gep, take a shower, eat your corn flakes, read the newspapers and local business journals, looking for clues about which employers may be expanding down the road. Speak to your inner hermit and put an end to its "nesting" instincts, says Debra Condren, a business psychologist and "derailment prevention" expert in Manhattan and San Francisco. That means reaching out to friends and former colleagues -- even if you get that dreaded question, "So, how's the job search going?" Get intctivities you never used to have time for. Exercising is an excellent choice because, besides making for a healthier you, it also triggers an internal reaction that actually lifts your spirits. And do sign up for that continuing-education class -- taking one or teaching it. If your brain tells you not to commit because "what if a job comes along," just stop that line of thinking right there. You'll find a way to work it out. Copyright [copyright] Seattle Times Company, All Rights Reserved. You must get permission before you reproduce any part of this material. Copyright © 2000 Dow Jones & Company, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
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